FBA Pack Review List and Emails Not Working

SharePoint FBA Pack
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I can't get any users to show up in the review list. The review setting is definitely on. I have set and unset it multiple times. I have also deactivated and reactivated the feature multiple times.

I've confirmed that email on the farm is working.
Regardless of what I do account requests go right into the users list not the request list, and no emails are sent out. I could use some help understanding why.

Thanks!
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Also I'm getting "There was an error sending the email, please check with your administrator" when trying the password reset web part, but email on the server works. I've confirmed it by sending and receiving other emails.
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Does it work if you use an internal email address? A lot of the time external email addresses (gmail etc..) are used with FBA, but the smtp server hasn't been configured to allow relaying from the SharePoint server.